FOR THE FISH, CLICKITY CLICK.
I have a problem with guys who insist on paying for me when we go out.
It's not that I'm a modern woman who feels offended because my ability to fend for myself is slighted. Contrary to popular belief, I'm not a militant feminist. I totally support abortion, prostitution, beauty contests and women in tacky french maid uniforms frolicking suggestively with dustpans and being caught on Kodachrome.
Okay, so people who make pornos prefer to use equipment that spawns grainy porn videos with terrible 8-bit sound that makes fake moans and wet slapping sounds sound even more torturous to the ears, but that's no reason to stop hoping that one day Kodachrome would make a return.
(I actually have no idea what Kodachrome is, but my photography-nut friend assures me that it is the equivalent of a machine the size of an iPod that can play all PS2, PC and Xbox games)
Maybe the reason I'm so anal about going dutch has something to do with the fact that my parents have deeply ingrained into my pysche that it is not okay to blithely take things from other people. When I was a kid I was forbidden to borrow money from friends (especially during the typical end-of-the-month brokeness) no matter what. If it matters, I have a problem with my friends paying my share for me as well.
FOR THE BIKE, CLICKITY CLICK.
It sucks even more if you really like the guy, cos once you feel outraged and he feels cheated, it's hard to go anywhere beyond being hi-bye friends. That is, IF you manage to stay friends at all.
Of course, I totally expect comments about the archaicness of my generalisations, my belief that a guy will expect something in return for the money that he has spent, and I admit that this is grossly unfair to the guys who're being genuinely nice, but I find paying my own share easier to deal with. It completely eliminates the 'what if' factor, and at the end of the day there're no misconceptions and/or expectations that I have to deal with. These things could get really ugly, really fast.
This way, I'm not obligated to repay the favour and the guy's not obligated to spend a bomb to buy sex. And let's face it, that's exactly what it is when you take 'love' out of the equation, not that I have anything against buying sex. I just like to call a spade a spade.
Besides, if it's obligation sex, where's the fun in that? I figured this way, at the very least the guy I'm with knows that if I blow him, it's not because I want him to buy me jewellery.
Title of blog post totally tongue-in-cheek. Cross my heart. *grins*
5 comments:
Interesting post...
Not much else to say.
well, if u wanna see the guy again, you could pay for the next meal and he after that and so on... if there's no forseeable date, go dutch and dump hehe
and of course, HAPPY NEW YEARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR *mwahs*
I'm not surprised that some ladies actually prefer to fork out some money, less "pressure" off their shoulders, like you said. But mind you, these "imaginary obligations" can sometimes be your, simply, imagination (when in fact the guy never expected anything in return)! But then again, sometimes conscience makes you feel obglied to treat him back, or return the favor in any other method.
On obligation sex part: If he really had minds on getting into your pants, he may let you foot the whole bill if you insisted, but his intentions could well *still* be there, y'know. You can't always make a difference there, yget what i mean :p
@Banjo:
The entire article was motivated by the fact that I just wanted to say blowjob in public. *grins*
@Kimmy:
Need to revise my don't-take-things-from-other-ppl motto, cos it looks like I'm the only one doing it. Shit end of the stick and stuff like that. :)
Happy new year to you too, darling.
@Narrowband:
Yeah, I'm aware that this is a generalisation and I'm probably being unfair to a lot of nice guys out there. *shrugs* Look at it this way, he saves money and I'm happy. :)
I've never paid for a guy, unless it's his birthday. Figured he's lucky enough to be with a girl who doesn't expect him to foot the bill all the time, so me paying for him would be asking too much, especially seeing that I'm not working yet. A swift kick in the nuts settles the 'intentions' part, methinks. :)
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